Our values are our guideposts that direct the choices and decisions we make in life.  Values are learned across a lifetime of experience and are influenced in a multi-directional manner.  We learn in many different environments such as home, school, with others, through work, and continually throughout life.  Unlike feelings that fluctuate and change based on the emotional input; our values are more connected to our identity.  What we value can change, but our core values that shape and define us personally and individually tend to be consistent in life.  Given the importance of our values, it would seem obvious that people would benefit from understanding not only more about values in general but more about how it specifically applies to them and their significant life relationships.  

     Even though our values tend to be consistently connected to our identity and in many ways define us, we still have choices to make regarding how we handle important life decisions, relate to others, define our career path, choose a partner, or many other significant life choices.  When we ignore what we value and make decisions that are incongruent with our values we may experience anxiety, stress, or disappointment.  When this occurs in a relationship it drains us of the ability to function at our highest level of being and to maximize our strengths.  

     Many people go through life never truly identifying what they value or identifying what this means or how it impacts their relationships.  They may feel disconnected from what they desire most in life, i.e., to feel connected, appreciated, valued, or recognized for their individual contribution.  Each of us is unique in our abilities, and have gifts that when used to the highest potential allow us to be authentic.  Too often people are driven by fear and a lack of personal knowledge or skills which leave them destined to feel that life is empty.  Patterns of thinking, feeling, and behaving may drive people to continue to make the same errors; however, if they never identify what they truly regard and value, they will be unsuccessful in changing their underlying beliefs that may be negative or unhealthy.  When people learn to connect at the core values level, they begin to view themselves and others in a different light.  They begin to see the potential as opposed to the obstacles.  

Core Value/Energy Source






Power (to make a positive difference)



     When we tap into our core value and the energy source that drives our most significant and available personal resource, we respond with less stress, more efficiently, and create better choices and outcomes.  If you think having more information about how to tap into your personal resources by identifying and defining your core values,


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